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You care too much. Embrace apathy without mercy or guilt.

When pondering the world's problems do you ever gaze out the window with a soulful expression and think to yourself,
"The modern human drive to improve life for everyone is pointless...because nobody flippin' cares... If only they cared...then...oh, the wonderful possibilities.
Or something like that.

Do you frequently assert that if people just cared more we could genuinely improve our schools, our government, our neighborhoods, ourselves, and basically the entire world around us?

If so, let me suggest maybe the problem isn't a lack of caring, but the opposite. What if one of the fundamental "problems" with society is that people care too much about too many things. Wait. What?

How much time do you spend 'caring' about and talking about things you can't control---such as other people's opinions (regarding you, politics, religion, Will Ferrell, Netflix, our schools, etc.)? How much time do you spend caring about your future health, finances, happiness, fame/fortune, and your children's future? How about your opinions on things like why dogs are better than cats,  why more people should watch the movie, Gentlemen Broncos with an open mind, or why everyone who shops at Walmart are morons except for you?

Let me generalize for a sec and take a guess. I'm guessing for most you folks out there all that time spent caring takes at least 50% of your awake time. And for some of you poor bastards, your asleep time too.

So I ask, does all this caring make your life better? Are you more content? Happier? Purposeful? Does it make the world a better place? Does it make those less fortunate then you more fortunate? After all, you spend a lot of time asserting your solutions to whomever will listen on how we can make things better. You talk to yourself constantly thinking all the ways you care about improving yourself and the world around you. And yet, the world hasn't really changed much. People are still people. Jerks are still the ones in power. More and more people are depressed. Cancer still kills people, and you yourself are probably still miserable despite all your caring.

Maybe the problem is we are all just caring too much. We spend too much time on things we can't control, things that maybe don't even matter, like our opinions on the best way to fix things, and the minutia of life. And when all things are said and done and our corpse is cold and plastic-looking, the things you finally realize that don't make one iota of difference.

May I suggest an alternative? 

Stop giving a crap. 

Stop caring about so many things. Relax. Enjoy. Embrace the amazing feeling of apathy. Live your life within each moment and let the chips fall where they may.

And please don't worry, when a need arises in the moment needing your caring, most of you will act without thinking and save that stranger choking in the restaurant, donate money to that cause, and put down the breakfast burrito and eat a freakin' plant.

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