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When should you go to the doctor?

HEADLINE! Errors made by medical staff possibly the 3rd leading cause of death
Are you thinking, "What the huh? That can't be right. Does that mean I stand a greater chance of living if I DON’T get a colonoscopy?"

“With approximately 251,454 deaths in the U.S. per year due to medical errors, Johns Hopkins University researchers estimate that this is the third leading cause of death in the country.  (Research published in the Journal of Patient Safety estimates the number of premature deaths due to medical errors could be even higher – over 400,000 per year.)“ Source:  Medical Medical Errors Statistics

Before deciding, first consider what the government and hospitals tell the public, and then consider what they don't tell us. According to the CDC at Leading Cause of Death, heart disease and cancer take the number one and two causes of death in the United States. According to their website these two causes are followed by :

3. Accidents
4. Chronic lower respiratory dise…

We are all going to die

One of my favorite pastimes is to wander around the local cemetery and contemplate death, life, Pokemon and big gulps.

The cemetery houses a panoply of widely diverse deceased.  Headstones indicate the residents range from the never-to-be-born infant to the 100 year old geezer and everyone in between. Male, female. Parent, child. Rich, poor. Beloved, and not so beloved.

As stupid as it may sound, I tend to forget that my days are limited. Each day feels like an eternity. The years feel like a never-ending, dull road that never reaches a destination worth going to. The only thing that changes is the face I look at in the mirror each day.

My cemetery rounds help me focus and remember that  life is brief. I tell myself to stop being afraid and make the most of the time I have left. And I am inspired. And then I leave the cemetery and all inspiration escapes like the hot air leaving a punctured balloon

In the beginning I believed that a life worth living was one filled with friends and f…

Is the best thing you can hope for to die in your sleep?

Remember when you were 16 and thought you'd live forever? Then one day (probably decades later) you realized that even you...yes you!would go belly-up sooner or later?
That is a horrible and beautiful realization.
With death now looming, what, if anything, did you change?

Possible responses:  Bury your head in the sand. Drink, eat, watch Netflix. Keep yourself occupied with bread and circuses so you don't have to think about the hard stuff.Live healthy. Start living healthier (e.g., did you stop doing one or more of the following: smoking, drinking, eating junk food, sitting, looking directly at the sun, being friendless, stressing out...about dying, etc.) to postpone your last breath?Default to the next life. Double-down on the afterlife and really start following the rules of the religion and/or cult you grew up in (e.g., eating the right food and drink God said to, treating others in God's prescribed manner, sacrificing your wants and needs for those of the higher power…

Short-term vs long-term relationships?

I've met and connected with so many interesting people over the years who I will most likely never speak with again. Some have moved to different companies, some live in different countries, and some were random meetings in airports or restaurants whose names I can't even remember.

This happens to most of us to some extent due to the hustle-bustle transient lifestyles of the modern world. Most people come into our lives and go. Gone are the days where people are born in a village and spend the remainder of their lives with the same 150 people.

I used to wonder if my life would be richer and more fulfilling if I could find a way to make the awesome transient connections with people less transient...meaning the people I meet and like by chance, would come into my life, but not go away entirely.

But after a long time of pondering, now I'm guessing changing most transient relationships to permanent ones would ruin the magic. Those brief human connections are like tiny miracle…

Toilet paper companies are treating you like you treat their toilet paper

Do you remember where you were and what you were doing when you first realized that companies  sneakily downsize their products and charge the same amount (or more) for a smaller quantity of goods?

For me, I was in Walmart in 2008. I was trying to buy ice cream for a family dinner. My mom asked me to bring three half-gallon containers of ice cream. My mom is a food perfectionist. She usually never allows anyone other than herself to bring food to a dinner for fear we will imperfect her perfect meal. Even on Thanksgiving, she only entrusts we guests to bring things like condiments, candles, and salt. This was a rare opportunity for me to prove to her that I could at least buy ice cream perfectly.

I scoured the store's giant freezer for 2 quart containers. I found 1.7, 1.5, even 1...but alas, no 2 quarts. I turned and plowed through the group of five angry shoppers who had gathered behind me impatiently waiting to get their ice cream and left the store in an angry panic.


Why is emasculate even still a word?

unsplash-logoDaniel Apodaca

Male comedians make a lot of jokes about getting emasculated, and I don't get why that is still a thing.

I'm not mad, or militant about it. I just don't understand how these points of view are helping these men in their lives. I am a curious cat and want to figure it out.

Apparently being emasculated is the worst thing in the world and makes men feel sulky, sad and victimized. And in rare, extreme cases, drives some men to murder random women, since in their perspective, women are the sole cause of emasculation.

Let's talk this whole thing out...

First off, the word "masculine" describes someone with the stereotypical qualities and appearance traditionally associated with men.

A "masculine" man, per the manly-man textbook, describes the ideal embodiment of the male species as a big, strong, aggressive, virile, competitive, domineering, stoic person who is cold and calculating, unfailingly logical and unaffected by emotion…

Before you judge others, make sure you walk in their baby-seal lined shoes.

I had an epiphany today. Today, I viewed the world through another's eyes.

In a flash of unexpected insight, I came to understand why people butcher those adorable white baby seals.

I  was at our local hunting store this afternoon with my two boys. My aspiring redneck was looking for camouflage pants with a specific camo pattern that would guarantee him a shot at the rarest, most sought-after, near-mythical buck... tomorrow...for sixty dollars or less.

Meanwhile, my baby-seal-adoring younger son and I discovered a pair of camo pants made out of the warmest, fluffiest, softest, most comfortable sleeping bag we'd ever experienced.They were amazing.

My whole life I've waddled around in sleeping bags thinking that my life would be complete if I could just live in these bags of heaven. It never occurred to me to splice the bottom and turn them into wearable, practical pants. And yet, here I was, face-to-face with this miracle, brought to fruition  from some creative genius get…

Things to never do at an airport

My mistakes are your learning opportunities.

Airports are like their own country. They have their own rules, regulations, and enforcement that takes little consideration of peoples' rights. They are much more stringent and well, for lack of a better term, militarized. Think Soup Nazi from Seinfeld. If you want what they are selling, you gotta play by their matter how ridiculous.

I get it though. They have to do the needful to prevent disaster and mayhem that will put them out of business. I'm not asking them to change. I am sharing my insights for the common folk so you have an acceptable experience each time you fly:


Engage with a pilot sitting next to you on a flightGet noticibley injuredTake more than 3 items from the food basketBring a vibrator through securityRefuse to get friskedAsk for the entire can of Diet CokeArgue with any of the airline employeesHave a middle initial on your driver's licence that is different than the initial on your ticketCom…

Stop calling and texting me

Before cell phones, when I wanted to get away from everyone I simply walked outside. Or took the phone off the hook, or just let the phone ring. And people were cool with it. They would just try again later, solve their own problems, or call someone else. People didn't expect other people to be "on call" all day every day. They were patient. If they really needed to get a hold of you, they would find a way.

Now with cell phones, we are essentially on-call all the time. And we don't even get paid for it. You can be at a movie, communing with nature, or peacefully staring at the wall, and any yahoo can contact your phone and expect you to answer. And if you don't answer right away, or not at all, they get mad and offer that awesome new job to some other person or stop inviting you to family dinners.

The cell phone is like a black cloud hanging over all the good life experiences---you never know if you'll get that call/text that will force you to mentally leave…

Go therapize yourself - Car Self-therapy

Therapists are just telling you what you already know. If you want convenient, free, and effective therapy, cut out the middle man. Therapize the safe, comfortable, private sanctuary of your car.

If you don't know where to start, start here...reading the rest of this post.

It's easier than you may think.

First you need an "audience." It doesn't really matter who is in the audience, you just need a captive listener. So I suggest said audience should be you. After all, who knows you better than you?

Now jump in your car and start the video recording device on your cell phone, put it in "Selfie" mode and yammer away.

In car self-therapy you play both parts. First you are the patient. As the patient, your job is to blurb out everything, I mean EVERYTHING that is eating at you, hurting you, and stopping you.

When you're finished blurbing, you then become the therapist. The therapist gently makes observations and suggestions based on the bl…